You’re at your work desk working on a proposal, it’s 8:15pm and you know your partner is watching the clock after having eaten dinner alone. You’re feeling the pressure of deadlines and work demands, and if you’re honest with yourself you know your relationship has...

With the rise of online therapy apps, therapy has reached new levels of accessibility. But are these online companies the answer to mental health? We don’t think so. While there are benefits to online therapy, such as accessibility, and convenience, their current...

Living through a global pandemic is never easy. But what about living through a global pandemic with kids? You’re probably struggling trying to find a balance between home and work, while your kids are learning how to navigate a world that’s both new to them and new...

It’s been three years since reports of Covid infections began surfacing and we’re nearly two years into a global pandemic. Outbreaks can be stressful times and a global pandemic can be even tougher. It’s not surprising that, for many of us, pandemic fatigue has set...

Renaldo and Alicia are sitting on my couch, arms crossed, bodies turned away from each other, eyes fixated on my office walls.    The conversation started out about a nice dinner they had cooked together at home and somehow ended in a verbal tornado of criticisms...

You wake up and think about how much you miss them.  You hear something you think they’d find funny or interesting, and you wish you could text them.  You watch a familiar show or hear a song on the radio, and your mind instantly goes to them.  You have a hard day,...

Being South Asian is such a privilege to me. There is an amazing sense of community and family, and a great sense of pride in our culture. Along with this though, often also comes a great burden – especially if you are a woman. The burden of being the bearer of your...

Have you ever felt like you had the winter blues? Family and work obligations can wear on us heavily in the winter. With earlier sunsets and colder weather, we might feel more drained in the evenings and less energetic during the day. Winter can be a tough time. For...

Holidays take on various meanings, experiences, and expectations for all of us. Enjoying rituals of connection and celebration; honoring cultural and religious traditions; spending time with family and loved ones; taking some time to reflect and set intentions for the...

The holiday season has arrived! Tis the season for cookie baking, latkes making, and binging cheesy Hallmark movies. It’s the season of giving, joy, and for many…anxiety. While the holidays are intended to bring warmth and cheer, they often leave us feeling...

Perfectionists. We know them, we love them, maybe… we are them.    You might be thinking, well what’s so wrong with being a perfectionist?    Hear me out – there is a distinct difference between the pursuit of growth and achievement, and the pursuit of...

It’s the first of the month and as you’re sifting through your bills and planning out the goings-on for the next month, you find yourself reflecting back on last month. Well, that was kind of hamster wheel. Life feels like an assembly line of tasks, obligations, and...

At Love Heal Grow, most of our clients are survivors of abuse.  Sadly, this isn’t surprising as 1 in 4 women have experienced violence by a partner, 7 million children live in families in which severe partner violence has occurred, and 500 women are sexually assaulted...

Body positivity.    A few years ago, this idea was all over social media: special hashtags on Instagram, related topics trending on Twitter- and I remember thinking, “finally, loving yourself is trendy!”    For those of us who have struggled with...

My recently engaged little sister is in the midst of planning her wedding. After celebrating 11 years of marriage to my husband over the weekend, I thought about what advice I might offer her as she prepares to marry a wonderful person.   So here they are, 11...

March, 2020: I get a call from my children’s school. They’re closing the school. They’re closing the after-school program. Two weeks and they’ll re-evaluate after that.   Two Weeks. Two Weeks! My mind goes in overdrive. But I have to work…but my spouse has to...

If you remember flip phones and unlimited minutes after 8pm, or the pinnacle of early 2000s fashion (bell-bottom jeans and layered tank tops), then you might find yourself as a now twenty-something asking, “When the hell did I become an adult???”    They’re not...

Why it hurts and how sex therapy helps   A new couple walks into my office and here is what they share:   Partner A: “I’m so frustrated; it feels like we never have sex anymore. My partner cares more about the kids and their job than making love to me. They...

  Invisible Labor and How It’s Affecting Your Relationship   Perhaps this is the product of my recent “binge-watch” of Desperate Housewives, but nonetheless I find myself fascinated with the phenomenon of “invisible labor”.    Invisible labor is an...