5 Ways to Cope When Jealousy Rears Its Head
I have this memory from back when I was in grad school. I was working 3 different jobs, keeping up with classes, in my own therapy, and probably stuck in a bit of a depression as the stress piled on and on (and on). I often felt like I wasn’t...
You’ll Never Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (But That’s Okay)
Does scrolling through Instagram got you like: My partner is never as thoughtful as theirs.... I'm going to be lonely forever. Another promotion and a side hustle? I'll never be that successful. They got their PhD? I'll never go back to...
Give Yourself an Effing Break. Life is Hard Right Now.
I'm hearing over and over again in therapy sessions right now... "I'm doing all the ‘right’ things but I'm still not feeling very good. What am I doing wrong?” And then just last weekend (after riding the same roller-coaster in life that we all...
Boundaries – The Antidote to Bitter Burnout
It’s 7:30pm by the time you walk through the front door. You try to stuff the day’s work meetings, project deadlines, and conference calls to the back of your mind so you can make room to mentally zip through your home to-do list. It’s Friday night but...
Surviving and Thriving During COVID-19
We're more than 8 months in to the coronavirus pandemic and it's safe to say that many of our clients are experiencing burnout related to the changes we've experienced in 2020. We've battled mandatory quarantines, travel restrictions, changes to every "normal" we've...
Not Sleeping Well?
A couple of months a caught myself in a horrible cycle. Up late scrolling on the internet, turning my phone off but getting looped in anxious thoughts, dreading the moment my daughter wakes up because I didn't get enough sleep and I was just dying for a few more...
Dealing with Anxiety following Arguments with Your Partner
I still remember the first time I had an argument with my now husband. Having met in college, we didn't become serious in our relationship right away. Something about him, though, I knew that if we did end up moving to the next level--it was going to be a very...
When Sex is Painful
When sex is painful, we may find ourselves wondering what's wrong with us, struggling to relax and enjoy ourselves during intercourse, and maybe even avoiding sex all together. An activity that we hope will be a time of connection, pleasure and...
Dealing with Loss During COVID-19 Tips to Help Get You Through
COVID-19 has swung through many of our lives like an unexpected invisible wrecking ball, knocking down the walls of our lives and shaking the ground we stand on. We all scrambled to move out of harm’s way, but the impact came so quick it has been nearly impossible to...
Is COVID wreaking havoc on your relationship?
COVID-19 stress is certainly taking it's toll on all of us, huh? I know I have been feeling the stress as my husband and I do our best to make the right decisions to keep our family safe and healthy, juggle our full-time jobs, entertain and care for our toddler around...
How To Improve Your Sex Life
When couples first start sex therapy, they are usually feeling nervous and afraid that things just can’t get better. The good news is that usually within the first session, we are able to drill down to heart of the matter pretty quickly and identify changes that can...
I Want to Talk About Sex, But I’m Too Scared!
We aren’t really having sex anymore…is she not attracted to me anymore? Sex is starting to feel routine – I wish we could try something new…how do I tell him without hurting his feelings or making him mad? I keep turning her down because I hate how I look naked, and...
When Body Insecurities Affect Your Sex Life
A couple sits in my office. One partner is sad and frustrated that the other doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore. They are feeling very rejected. The other partner says quietly, eyes looking down, "Honestly, it's not about you. I don't like...
Why South Asians Can Have a Hard Time Asking for Help
This blog is part of our South Asian Perspective series. While topics will be relatable to many ethnicities and backgrounds, as part of our commitment to diversity, we are amplifying minority perspectives. Navneet Kaur works with clients of all...
Coming Out
Coming out is a celebration. Coming out is complicated. Coming out is scary. Coming out is lonely. Coming out is like finally being able to breathe. Coming out is unifying. Coming out is overwhelming. Coming out is awkward. Coming out never ends. These are...
Bay Area Teacher Has Message for Parents of School Aged Children during COVID Crisis
Should we be home-schooling our kids? What's the most important thing for our children right now? Will my kids fall behind? I'm so stressed--I'm worried I can't teach my kids everything they need to know right now. I talk with my sister, an elementary school...
How to Deal When You Can’t Stop Worrying
“I feel like I am going crazy”. “My mind is always on and I am tired of it”. “I don’t know what will happen to us and this is something that kills me inside”. “I am worried about what is going to happen to us”. If you have those thoughts and feel that way,...
Help! I’m a Therapy First-Timer! Where Do I Start?
How does this even work? Who should I pick? How much will this cost? How long will I have to go? Can I really talk about this stuff with a stranger? Does going to therapy mean something’s wrong with me? Why can’t I figure this stuff out on my own? What would my family...
Is it really “sex addiction”?
When a potential client reaches out to us with the common question "Do you treat sex addiction?" Part of me wants to say, "Well...it's complicated." Why? Because there isn't an actual diagnosis for sex addiction and as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I don't buy...
5 Silent Relationship Killers that can cause Emotional Disconnection with your Partner
"I don’t feel any emotional connection with my husband anymore.” “We have been disconnected from each other for a long time… and I don’t know what to do.” “It seems like we have nothing in common and we have been living as roommates.” “I want us to be happy again, but...
Date Yourself
It’s the month of February – it’s raining pink hearts, red roses, and chocolates everywhere you turn! February is known as the month of love, and many people are making extra efforts to express their love for their partners and friends with dinner dates, cards, and...
