Moving On After a Breakup or Divorce
Why was I with someone so wrong for me? Am I ready to get back into the dating scene? What exactly am I looking for…what if I get rejected? I don’t want to go through another failed relationship – I feel like I’ve wasted time. I forgot who I was and now I have to...
Five Steps to Survive Any Stressful Life Situations
When you get a cut, you put a bandage on it or when you get an infection, you take antibiotics, right? So why wouldn't we try to take care of ourselves in times of emotional distress due to unexpected life changes, including frequent arguments with loved ones,...
What You Need to Know About Grief
Most of us have experienced the painful loss of a family member, friend, colleague, or pet. Grief can feel so overwhelming, isolating, and confusing – leaving a person wondering if and how they will ever get through it. It’s a topic associated with pain, and because...
Public Speaking, Performance Anxiety…and Sex.
Have you heard that statistic that public speaking is most people's number one fear – rated higher for most folks than their fear of death? It’s often not the actual act of speaking publicly that we are afraid of. It’s all the negative thoughts and fears in our...
Relationship Conflict is a Good Thing
In my work, I love nothing more than being able to support people in building their ideal life and relationships. I truly believe that most things we can hope for and envision are possible with time persistence support from others, and self-compassion. ...
You are Super Smart, but You Can’t Read Your Partner’s Mind
Your brain is awesome. Your synapses are firing throughout the day to keep you alive and safe. Your brain holds all of your past experiences and knowledge to help you better interpret what is going on around you and help you to automatically respond to...
Higher Sex Drive Than Your Boyfriend or Husband: Let’s Talk About It
My heart breaks every time a woman with male partner comes into my office convinced she is the only woman in the world with a higher sex drive than her boyfriend/husband. She tells me like she's sharing a shameful secret. Like even I, a sex...
Erectile Dysfunction: Sex Therapy Can Help
Here at Love Heal Grow Counseling, we are contacted multiple times a week by men who are experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED). Sometimes it's been going on for years, sometimes they thought the issues were behind them only to be caught off guard by more...
Women & Low Sexual Desire – Sex Therapy
Myth: Women are less sexual than men. Myth: Women lose all interest in sex after marriage or as they get older. Myth: If you don't get turned on easily or often, you don't enjoy or care about sex as much as someone who does. Women who have a low...
Why Emotions are So Important
Emotions aren't just touchy-feely fluff. We need to take the time to express our emotions and to validate our partner's emotions because this is what connects us as human beings. When we let ourselves better understand each other's emotions, we'll feel...
Accepting Our Partner’s Corrections
When we take a chance in guessing how our partner is feeling, we might get it wrong--that's okay! If our partner corrects us, accept this graciously and take their correction to better understand how they are truly feeling. ...
Showing Our Partner We Understand Them
Our partner will feel heard and understood when we take time to show them what exactly it is we are understanding. It can be as simple as mirroring back a summary of what they have shared or--even more meaningful--we can acknowledge their most important feelings...
Putting Ourself in Their Shoes
You know your partner best, so you have the best ability to listen to them and really imagine how they are feeling. Let your own knowledge about the type of person that they are, what is most important to them, what they have been going through and how they...
Listening With Strong Interest & Putting Our Stuff on Hold
When our partner is talking to us about something important, we have our own reactions going on inside (thoughts, opinions, feelings and advice). If we want our partner to feel supported when they are opening up, we can put our own stuff on hold in order to...
Comfort Helps, Contempt Hurts: How our Body Language Sends These Messages
Research shows that we can soothe our partner with handholding comfort and that we communicate contempt through a certain facial expression. These two body language cues are so important to be aware of when we want to work on connection in the relationship....
Body Language Matters!
Today we're talking about body language and how it can help or hurt your relationship. Do you know what signals you are sending when you and your partner are talking? How are we helping or hurting the conversation with the signals we are sending? We are so in tune...
EMPATHY – The closest thing to a magic wand for relationships.
I might not have a magic wand to fix all relationships--but I do have a simple skill that we can use in any area of our life to feel closer to others. This set of videos will break down how we can show EMPATHY in communication. It's simple (but not easy) and it is a...
When Everything’s Good, but Sex is Awkward
You and your partner have a pretty strong relationship. You can talk about most things, you handle conflict without blowing up at each other, and you support each other’s hopes and dreams. There’s trust in the relationship and you feel comfortable opening up about...
Why Your Arguments are Going Nowhere
Every now and then a couple comes to me saying things like: -“We have a really strong relationship.” -“We usually communicate really well.” -“We just have this one problem that we can’t work through—can you help us?!” Committed couples make a lot of decisions...
Why “The Pina Colada Song” Makes Me Cry
You know the song Escape by Rupert Holmes? If you like pina coladas…and getting caught in the rain… I had always thought of it as a fun, cheesy summer time song that would pop up on the oldies station. I hadn’t ever really paid attention to the lyrics. ...
One Month to More Connection in Your Relationship
31 discussion topics to get you on the road to better intimacy. One way we build intimacy and connection is to be able to share important/deeper parts of ourselves with our partner and for them to be able to truly hear us when we do. This exercise can be done daily...
