Signs You’re in a Codependent Relationship
Do you find yourself continually making excuses for your partner's irresponsible behavior and taking on the role of their primary caretaker, neglecting your own needs and aspirations in the process? Meanwhile, your partner relies heavily on you for emotional support...
Finding A Mutual Language
As a sex therapist I often find that folks struggle to communicate not only their desires, but daily tasks, the meanings attributed to certain things, and their overall needs. Lately, in my sessions, I have been introducing the idea of a mutual or shared language....
What’s the Difference Between Loneliness and Solitude?
Loneliness is a big challenge for a lot of people’s mental health. According to the US Surgeon General, loneliness can have significant health consequences. Loneliness and isolation increase the risk of developing mental health challenges, and lacking connection can...
Tips to Conquer Your Fear of Flying
If your hands get clammy and your heart just about beats out of your chest before you step onto a plane, you are not alone. In fact, fear of flying impacts between 3-8% of people (which is a lot of people when you consider the number of people this represents). You...
The Relationship Between Trauma and Anxiety
“Trauma” and “anxiety” aren’t just buzzwords– they’re real experiences that profoundly shape individuals' lives, influencing their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and physiological responses. And unfortunately, they’re extremely common. The National Institute of Mental...
Is Pornography Affecting Your Relationship?
People tend to have a really complicated relationship with porn. Some people like it and incorporate it into a healthy set of sexual practices. Other people hate it, finding it harmful by default and that the production is degrading. We are not here to debate the...
Beyond Daydreams: Navigating Trauma-Related Dissociation
Most of us are familiar with the experience of becoming so engrossed with a film or book that we lose track of time, going on “autopilot” during a long drive, or losing ourselves in a daydream. All of these are examples of benign dissociation which are a fairly common...
Addressing Childhood Trauma as an Adult
One of the most frustrating societal expectations is the idea that as adults, we should just “get over” things that happened to us in the past– that whatever happened, it was so long ago that the mature thing to do is move past it and forget. And that expectation...
Self-Care for Parents: It Isn’t A Luxury – It’s A Necessity
Welcome to the rollercoaster ride of parenthood! It is a wild journey that know one can quite prepare you for. It is filled with ups and downs, with more twists and turns than a Dr. Suess bedtime story. Many parents have a dreamy vision of pregnancy - the glowing...
How To Support A Friend Who Revealed Their Sexual Identity
Sharing your sexual identity with somebody is always nerve-wracking. Even if you know that the person will love and support you unconditionally, it can still be a challenge to bring up. If you’re a good friend, you want to be there for your friends, no matter what...
Tips For Recovering From A Breakup
Not all relationships end in happily ever after. It’s a hard truth, but for most of us, breakups are inevitable at some point. Sometimes they’re a relief; sometimes they’re impossibly hard. Just as every relationship is unique, every breakup is also different. Getting...
How Lack of Sleep May Be Fueling Your Anxiety
Plenty of people toss and turn at night, fighting for sleep that doesn’t come. For most people, there are times when your mind races like a freight train through the night, refusing to let you slip into the restorative embrace of sleep. Instead, you find yourself...
What To Do When You Feel Helpless During A Time Of War
There’s a lot of bad news going around today, both nationally and internationally. For those of us in the US, seeing the violent conflicts in other parts of the world can be extremely distressing. It often feels like there’s nothing we can do, and it’s hard to not be...
Does Overprotective Parenting Create Anxious Children?
Most of the time, parents just want what’s best for their kids. But sometimes that can be hard to actually identify. Sometimes when we think we’re doing the right thing, we’re actually being too protective. While it's natural for parents to want the best for their...
How Asexuals and Aromantics Can Create Intimacy
When most people think of a love story, they think of a couple meeting, falling in romantic love, getting married, and living happily ever after. It’s a trope that’s been around since… well, basically since the dawn of human history (even if that whole “marriage”...
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in Relationships
Communication breakdowns are one of the most common relationship problems, and millions of couples have to deal with figuring out the best way to express themselves. However, for some couples, there’s an extra wrench in the works: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, or...
How To Talk To Your Child About Sexual Assault
Today’s topic is a hard one. Sexual assault is challenging to think about, but it’s even harder when you’re trying to contextualize it for kids. However, it’s absolutely vital that kids know about sexual assault and have trusted adults they can tell if it happens....
How People-Pleasing May Be Affecting Your Romantic Relationships
Ever found yourself bending over backward to keep your significant other happy, even if it means putting your own needs on the back burner? Well, you're not alone. Today, we're diving into the fascinating world of people-pleasing and its unexpected impacts on romantic...
Why Do I Tend To Overshare?
Have you ever been in a conversation and realized that you’ve bared your entire past and plenty of personal information to an absolute stranger? Or maybe you’ve found yourself sharing sensitive information for no good reason. In this highly interconnected world, the...
Childhood Emotional Neglect: The Trauma of What Wasn’t
None of us are born with the ability to name, notice, or regulate our emotions. The child-caregiver relationship provides developing children with critical emotional experiences that define their relationship to emotion, their relationship with themselves, and their...
How Physical Activity Can Help Heal Trauma
You’ve probably heard that you can’t run away from your problems– but what if you could, quite literally, run away from your problems? When you’re dealing with trauma, physical activity can be quite helpful as you recover. Today, we’re going to discuss how physical...
